Get Your Ex Back Tip#1: Stop apologizing. Wait wait…no I do not mean don’t apologize, just learn how and when to do it.
Get Your Ex Back Tip # 2 Acknowledge their feelings. Make it about them, show them that you do understand where they are coming from.
Get Your Ex Back Tip #3 Once dialogue has occurred and you both have a clear understanding of what happened. Then and only then do you apologize. When you open with an apology, again goes back to the lack of appreciation. It seems to your ex that you just want to get over and done with it to relieve your guilt and get on with the make up sex! And lets face it, that is what you want, a quick fix…but you know the thing about band aids, they are very temporary fix…so don’t get caught alone miserable listening to sad love songs or worse still better get this right so that your ex doesn’t send you an email with one of these:
I got these great tips from several books...The best is this one here
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Sunday, October 19, 2008
How Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
How many times should I say I am sorry? How many times?
Ok, so I got this next part from a friend who is a woman. So it's the perspective of a woman, so listen up fellows if you are serious about getting back with your ex and the love of your life. Think about this, how many times have you said sorry to ex girlfriend for past mistakes? How effective was it? Think about it, you ask your girlfriend out to dinner, she gets there and waits an hour, two, three and well you are a no show and probably for good reason (yes I am giving you the benefit of the doubt!)
So you show up a day later, with flowers purchases at your local grocery store, the arrangement of which leaves a lot to be desired and it is very clear that little or no thought was put into this make up gesture. Of course let’s not forget the box chocolates you grabbed at Rite Aid (yeah and you thought you were sleek).
So you waltz in, see the look on her face and your quickly spring into action because you have been taught that an apology, or the word sorry will fix everything. BUT you also know from experience this is not true, how well from the venom that comes spewing out of your girlfriends mouth!
You: I am so sorry about dinner yesterday!
Ex girlfriend: oh really? Just how sorry you know not.
You: I got you some flowers and chocolate, oh hone what can I do to make it up to you?
Ex girlfriend: Make it up to me, that is a laugh…I suppose you can make it up to me by taking the trash out but oh well then again, you are way to lazy and would rather sit on your butt watching football all day long. Or how about the time you said you would….and the kitchen sinking begins. Kitchen sinking is when you start bringing every single little thing that ever happened in the past. As you can see sorry is just a band aid, it covers up the wound, deals with the effects, but never really gets to the core of the matter. Sorry doesn’t resolve the root cause, neither does it wipe out the resentment that builds over the duration of the relationship.
The first step to reuniting love and getting your ex girlfriend back is to….know why you do what you do (cause), the effect it has and the reasons that lead to break up in the first place.
So lets start by defining an apology
apology |əˈpäləjē|
noun ( pl. -gies)
1 a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure : we owe you an apology | my apologies for the delay | I make no apologies for supporting that policy.
• a formal, public statement of regret, such as one issued by a newspaper, government, or other organization : the Prime Minister demanded an apology from the ambassador.
• ( apologies) used to express formally one's regret at being unable to attend a meeting or social function : apologies for absence were received from Miss Brown.
2 ( an apology for) a very poor or inadequate example of : we were shown into an apology for a bedroom.
3 a reasoned argument or writing in justification of something, typically a theory or religious doctrine : a specious apology for capitalism.
An apology is pretty much a justification. You are saying that you were right to miss out on dinner. You are acknowledging fault, but also justifying your position. You had to do it, there was no way to avoid it.
Men, you want to be needed, you want to feel special, you want respect.
Women, well all we want is to be acknowledged and the way you do this is by showing us that we are appreciated.
Standing up your girlfriend, or any other act that causes pain or hurt…well it screams out loud I don’t care about you. I do not appreciate you! You have heard that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, that is mighty fancy language for hell hath no fury like a woman who believes she is unappreciated!
scorn |skôrn|
noun
the feeling or belief that someone or something is worthless or despicable; contempt :
When a woman is done, you know she is going to drop you like a hot potato not caring where you land, done finito!
Ok, so I got this next part from a friend who is a woman. So it's the perspective of a woman, so listen up fellows if you are serious about getting back with your ex and the love of your life. Think about this, how many times have you said sorry to ex girlfriend for past mistakes? How effective was it? Think about it, you ask your girlfriend out to dinner, she gets there and waits an hour, two, three and well you are a no show and probably for good reason (yes I am giving you the benefit of the doubt!)
So you show up a day later, with flowers purchases at your local grocery store, the arrangement of which leaves a lot to be desired and it is very clear that little or no thought was put into this make up gesture. Of course let’s not forget the box chocolates you grabbed at Rite Aid (yeah and you thought you were sleek).
So you waltz in, see the look on her face and your quickly spring into action because you have been taught that an apology, or the word sorry will fix everything. BUT you also know from experience this is not true, how well from the venom that comes spewing out of your girlfriends mouth!
You: I am so sorry about dinner yesterday!
Ex girlfriend: oh really? Just how sorry you know not.
You: I got you some flowers and chocolate, oh hone what can I do to make it up to you?
Ex girlfriend: Make it up to me, that is a laugh…I suppose you can make it up to me by taking the trash out but oh well then again, you are way to lazy and would rather sit on your butt watching football all day long. Or how about the time you said you would….and the kitchen sinking begins. Kitchen sinking is when you start bringing every single little thing that ever happened in the past. As you can see sorry is just a band aid, it covers up the wound, deals with the effects, but never really gets to the core of the matter. Sorry doesn’t resolve the root cause, neither does it wipe out the resentment that builds over the duration of the relationship.
The first step to reuniting love and getting your ex girlfriend back is to….know why you do what you do (cause), the effect it has and the reasons that lead to break up in the first place.
So lets start by defining an apology
apology |əˈpäləjē|
noun ( pl. -gies)
1 a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure : we owe you an apology | my apologies for the delay | I make no apologies for supporting that policy.
• a formal, public statement of regret, such as one issued by a newspaper, government, or other organization : the Prime Minister demanded an apology from the ambassador.
• ( apologies) used to express formally one's regret at being unable to attend a meeting or social function : apologies for absence were received from Miss Brown.
2 ( an apology for) a very poor or inadequate example of : we were shown into an apology for a bedroom.
3 a reasoned argument or writing in justification of something, typically a theory or religious doctrine : a specious apology for capitalism.
An apology is pretty much a justification. You are saying that you were right to miss out on dinner. You are acknowledging fault, but also justifying your position. You had to do it, there was no way to avoid it.
Men, you want to be needed, you want to feel special, you want respect.
Women, well all we want is to be acknowledged and the way you do this is by showing us that we are appreciated.
Standing up your girlfriend, or any other act that causes pain or hurt…well it screams out loud I don’t care about you. I do not appreciate you! You have heard that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, that is mighty fancy language for hell hath no fury like a woman who believes she is unappreciated!
scorn |skôrn|
noun
the feeling or belief that someone or something is worthless or despicable; contempt :
When a woman is done, you know she is going to drop you like a hot potato not caring where you land, done finito!
How To Get Your Ex Back
How do we Get our Ex Back?…Hey I know this is a question that plagues a lot of us, men and women alike. It’s an epidemic, that many wish they could get a shot for or take a pill, wake up and it was nothing more than a bad dream. What steps do we take to get your ex back? Everyone seems to have some magical way of doing it, but listening to the wrong person, can have you looking and feeling like a complete idiot. 
Most of us lose our mind, if we are still in love and can’t fathom our ex being with someone else. Our heart aches, we can’t sleep, while others can’t leave the bed. Some of us can’t eat, and some of us eat too much to cover the pain we feel. We tend to do things out of character, it changes our over all attitude about our daily routine. Many of us alienate our friends and family, while some of us talk their ears off about our problems, just to have them run upon the site of us. Sometimes if we’re not careful, we can find ourselves in trouble. We don’t mean to stalk, call to much harassing, let your no' s come across deaf ears. We just want you back!
So what is the proper way to get them back without causing damage to anyone. Reading self help books of how to get your ex back is one way. But just like advice given by a friend, you have to be careful what you apply. Manipulation and tricks to get them back can backfire, and having feeling worse and spending unnecessary time. If I may suggest reverse emotional direction.
This book is a little unconventional, so please be mature when applying methods to use. Remember that she/he left once, so something has to change about you. I have a saying “Until the pain of remaining the same, out ways the pain of change; will one change”
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Take care and Good Luck!
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